There are times when we seek advice from others and then there are times when we would rather not get their input, we just need someone to listen.
*** Blabber mouth syndrome ***
I am a born communicator. I even teach communications...talk talk talk...I can do this most of the time. A friend once told me, "Can you stop and listen to me and stop trying to always talk?" I tend to cut people off at times and it is not because I do not care about their situations, but I just tend to want to give unsolicited (unasked for) advice. I am glad I have friends like her who are real because not only is it foolish to blab off without listening, but it can be hurtful to the person needing an ear and not an opinion.
"Spouting off before listening to the facts is both shameful and foolish." Proverbs 18:13 (NLT)
When the word of God has scripture for our situations it is refreshing! I have always been open to constructive criticism. I mean who knew that it can be shameful and foolish to not listen? I have learned that it is wise to pray before giving any advice to a person. When we are of the body of Christ, it does not mean we are exempt from hurts, but we should definitely be wise about seeking counsel and about giving counsel.
Is it ever okay to give unsolicited advice?
Yes! Some people believe that God has this thing where He will give us an opportunity to live sinfully. What do I mean? Ever hear someone speak and give God credit for doing something that goes against His word? Kind of makes you take two steps back and ask yourself (in your head) "Are they serious?" God will not "bless" you with finances to spend on drugs, alcohol, wild parties or even on solely yourself. God will not "bless" you with a man or woman to have sex with outside of marriage. Someone is cursing up a storm and then ends it with "but God knows my heart". As believers, we have to stand up for Jesus in moments when His work on the cross is being pushed aside as just an event in history. It is not okay to put God's name on mess. So yes, in these instances...give unsolicited advice.
Stand up for Jesus!
It vexes me every time I hear someone say, "It will happen when you least expect it". What does that even mean? Every month you are "expecting" to see two lines on a pregnancy test or expecting for Aunt Flow to not show up. Hopefully at least. How can you least expect what you are expecting? But I get that some people are just trying to give hope. I really get it. Sometimes with sensitive situations like this...Just let the person know you are praying for them. Hearing that someone is praying for us goes a long way!
When asked, "What do you think I should do?" My little heart gets excited when I can finally speak, but as I mentioned before...We must always seek the Holy Spirit in these things. The Lord always gives the BEST responses! Be that friend that listens. Especially when it comes to someone desiring children, but having to wait. Be the person that genuinely prays for the person seeking your undivided attention. Wait to speak. A lot of times, if you can wait, most people will give their own advice by the end of what they are trying to say.